You Are Wrong

You are wrong. Whatever you are doing, whatever change you are trying to make, someone is going to tell you that you are wrong. You shouldn’t do it that way. It costs too much. It isn’t fancy enough. It’s too elaborate to be worn on Friday’s. I wish that it came with a V8.

You are wrong.

But being told that you are wrong isn’t a reflection of your value. When someone says, “you’re wrong.” They are really saying, “You aren’t right for me.” And if you aren’t right for someone, it doesn’t mean that you should stop being who you are.

Sleeping in a stranger’s house, getting into a stranger’s car, buying a used item without first seeing it, telling the world about the hamburger you ate for lunch. All of these things are wrong to someone. But Airbnb, Uber, eBay, and Twitter are also right to so many people.

Being Wrong In Real Life

When someone tells you that you are wrong, they are saying, “you aren’t right for me.” But this doesn’t mean that you stop having a relationship with that person. Life isn’t as binary as that. You might be the wrong software vendor, but the right consultant for someone. You might be the wrong tutor, but the right camp instructor. Being told you are wrong doesn’t define your value. It helps you see what is valuable to that person at that moment.

Your Action

When someone tells you that you are wrong:

  1. Don’t take this as a rejection of you as a person. Instead, this is a reflection that you are not meeting the exact need that someone has.
  2. Decide whether you can, or want to, meet that person’s need.
  3. Ask the person what they would consider to be ‘right.’ Your conversation will be invaluable in learning what is most important to that person.

[Footnote: Just because someone tells you that you are wrong, it doesn’t mean that you are right. Tomorrow’s post is titled: You Might Really Be Wrong]